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Ten Rules For A Successful First Date

These rules may not get you a second date, but by following them you will be well on your way to having a memorable first date.

Rule number 1: Always, always, be on time. Take time to plan your route of travel. Traffic tie ups happen all the time, have a back up route available. If you are unfamiliar with the area, take a practice drive first so you will not be nervously looking for street signs.

Rule number 2: Make sure you look like you want to be with this person. Take time to iron your clothes, unless you really want her/him to think you just crawled out of bed. Wrinkled, stained clothing is an instant turn off for anyone. Make sure you allow time for personal hygiene (a must if you are thinking of getting close to anyone). Get a hair cut if you think you need one. Remember to take breath mints with you. You'll need them later if you have had coffee or a mixed drink.

Rule number 3: Don't make the mistake of bring flowers or wine as a gift on the first date. That idea went out the window with your grandmothers wash water. Do remember to compliment your date. A compliment never hurts and can go a long way in breaking the ice.

Rule number 4: If you have decided on a dinner date, don't try to over impress, but take it a step up from the hamburger joint on the corner. A nice, reasonably priced dinner can help you both relax and enjoy learning about each other.

Rule number 5: Turn off your cell phone. Nothing can ruin a first date faster than you stopping in mid conversation to answer a ringing phone. If it is important, they will leave a message. If you answer it, you are telling your date that they are not the most important aspect of the evening. A very bad sign indeed.

Rule number 6: Listen. Let your date talk about their interests, as you may find that you have several in common. If they ask you questions, answer them as honestly as you can without going into details. After all, you want to have something to talk about on your next date.

Rule number 7: Act like you have manners even if you have never done it before. Don't smoke, unless you ask your date first. If they don't mind, then go ahead and light up. Don't drink and drive. If you expect to have cocktails before, with, or after dinner, CALL A CAB. Don't take a chance.

Rule number 8: This goes back to Rule number 2. If you have had a drink (or two) or especially if you have had spicy food or coffee, do pop a couple of breath mints.

Rule number 9: If you think your date is having a good time, ask if you might see them again and set a firm date and time. Maybe make the next date something that you can do during the day such as a picnic or visit to a zoo or aquarium. You would be surprised how many second dates wind up being third dates after a day in the park.

Rule number 10: Walk to the door with your date. Nothing can ruin it faster than for you to pull up at the curb and tell them ???goodnight???. Don't expect to be invited in on the first date; however, if you are, then you have hit a home run. Go for it but be careful and safe.