Overcoming shyness in dating may seem like a daunting task but it can be done with a little perseverance and a little patience. Shyness can originate from many different places and severe shyness may need professional assistance, but a simple case of uncomfortableness can be remedied.
Steps to Overcoming Shyness
- Increase confidence and self esteem
- Be positive, upbeat, listen to jokes before a date
- Have good posture stand up straight, look good and you will feel good
- Embrace the situation, it is ok if the person is not into you, have fun and enjoy yourself and chuck the experience up to a lesson learned about what you want.
- Practice the date scenario at home, look at yourself in the mirror and talk
- Go out on a regular basis before hand and get comfortable talking to strangers and people of the opposite sex, at the store etc.
- Look people in the eye when you talk to them
- Examine why you are shy in the first place, take notice of these things and write them down, try and tackle one thing at a time
- Watch others body language and mimic them until you get a feel for what your comfort body language is
- Join a club of others just like you, gain confidence by helping others
- You can try an online dating service but be careful and protect yourself online
- Set small goals for yourself and reward yourself for completing them
- Try something outside of your comfort zone to gain confidence
- Face your fears and take them on straight ahead a little each day
- Go out with friends and relatives to get comfortable with being out in public and watch people around you, interact
Men versus Female Shyness
Men are shy when they have to approach a woman, they are afraid they will get shot down and they have to make that walk all the way across the room. Women on the other hand are the ones that are waiting for the guy to approach them, and they wait and wait. Sometimes it may be ok to approach the guy, gather up the confidence and saunter over and start talking. It may work on occasion, and other times it may not work at all. The thing about dating or meeting people is that it is a crap shoot, you take your chances and some times you get a good response and sometimes you don’t. Sometimes you have to build your confidence level so that no matter the outcome you still have a good time. |
